Think First

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If I just try harder or work harder, then it will work.  How many of us have done this or thought about doing this?  We think that by sheer force of will we can change things.  Sometimes this is true.  But often, will power is not enough to make something happen.  We are often much more complex than that.  We need to stop and consider how we keep getting into the same situation, the “why” behind things.
 
Consider dieting or healthy eating.  It is not terribly complicated to figure out how to eat healthy.  More fruits and vegetables, less carbs and processed food.  Yet many of us struggle to eat healthy.  We know that we need less cake, more vegetables.  We know it, but we do things that we know are bad for us.  Many of the groups designed to help people learn to eat healthy tell folks that they have to learn why they are eating the unhealthy food.  Will power alone won’t allow us to make the healthy eating changes in our lives.  We have to understand why we are doing what we are doing.  (Emotional eating, stress, boredom, accessibility, etc.)  Once we understand why, then we are able to make the changes that need to be made.
 
Food is one example, but in all of our lives we need to consider the why of our actions before we can ever hope to change our behavior.  Maybe you feel that you are not kind to strangers.  Why?  It won’t help you or the stranger if you force yourself to be kind, because will power is not enough.  Why aren’t you kind to strangers?  Figure this out, then you can move forward.  If you feel that you always seem to wait until the last minute to get things done, figure out the why.  Once you figure out your thinking, then you can change your behavior.  Trying to change your behavior without figuring out the thinking just makes you tired and very little changes.
 
Take the time to think about the why before you change the what, then you will find out that you are able to change a lot more than you think.

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