Accepting Differences

Sliced squash, salted and drainingphoto © 2010 Kirstin | more info (via: Wylio)The squash are ripe. Many backyard farmers around us are starting to see results from their gardens, including yellow squash. Our family are big squash fans, so this is good news to us. We have been able to find squash at farmer’s markets, and we have been blessed with gifts of squash. We are even holding out hope that our garden will produce some squash, but these others sources are great while we wait for our own squash. Special summer joy of yellow squash.

There is, however, a slight problem. While we love eating squash, we do not agree on how to cook squash. We have our own opinions on what should be done. My parents always cooked squash with lots of onions. The squash and onions would be sautéed until it was a brownish-yellow mass of mush. It tasted good, but it did not look appealing. My husband grew up eating fried squash. The round medallions are dipped in an egg wash and then corn meal. After the battering, they are fried until crisp. He has recently been experimenting with pancake mix instead of the corn meal batter. These taste good as well, but the oil and batter are not adding to the nutritional value. I like my squash grilled. I stick the plain medallions on a grilling surface and just cook. I don’t add anything but a little cooking spray. I cook until crisp tender. This is my favorite way.

We are all different in our approaches to squash. Different approaches to things are often sources of contention. As we live in community, whether a family, a church, or a neighborhood, we have to have some agreed upon practices. We have to find ways to accept that everyone is not going to do things our way. This is where we often struggle, because we all believe that our way is the best way to do things. After all, it is our way! To be a part of a group is to accept that we will not always get our way. We need to work to find mutually agreeable solutions for the whole group. This means giving up some of our control for the sake of the group. We may find that by accepting others we may change ourselves. We may find that they change as well. Being a part of a faith community, especially, should change us. We should be challenged to grow in our way of doing things so that we can become more like Christ. Our life in community is about growing. So, how are you growing and changing? In our family, whoever is cooking gets to decide the method of squash preparation. This has worked for us. I’ve grown to enjoy my husband’s fried squash, and we make sure to cook the squash when we visit my parents. He eats squash grilled when I cook as well. We are learning and growing together. How do you cook your squash? How are you growing in community?


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