Nothing to Say

English: me and my friend

English: me and my friend (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Most, if not all, of us have been in those situations where we find we have nothing to say.  Recently it happened to me, again.  There is a friend who is hurting.  The pain is real, and the pain is not going away.  She is hurting.  I want to help her.  I want to ease her pain, but there is nothing I can do.  This is a situation that she must go through rather than around.  Oh, if I could just find the words to take away her hurt.  I want to ease the sadness.  There are no words.


We all have to accept a certain amount of helplessness in our lives, including me.  I cannot take away the pain, hurt, and suffering.  But I can be present.  I can sit beside my friend without words.  I can pray for my her wherever I am.  I can ask God to be with her in her suffering.  I can learn to trust more full in God’s presence, love, and healing especially when I don’t have the words.


When we are hurting or when others are hurting, we have a choice to make.  We can rage against the ineffectiveness of ourselves and others to ease the hurt, or we can trust God to deal with the hurt.  We can trust God with our friends hurts that we know about as well as the hurts are not publicly know.  We can trust God to walk through us through the hard, sad, difficult, and painful times of our own lives as well.  We can open ourselves up to God’s presence with us when we are hurting rather than trying to fix things ourselves.  This dependence does not make us weak, but it allows us to grow stronger.  This reliance on God allows us to accept our own limitations as well as the limitations of those around us.


What choice will you make?  Will you put your trust in God or in your words?  For me, I will trust God because I know that I sometimes have nothing to say.


Look At Me

Eye!LOOK AT ME!  I am worth noticing!  Don’t just glance at me.  I want you to LOOK AT ME.  Don’t look around me.  I am standing right here.  I need you to acknowledge my existence.  I am a person of worth.  LOOK AT ME.  We are breathing the same air.  We are in the same space.  While I may be surrounded by people, I need someone to LOOK AT ME.  I am not seeking attention.  I am seeking connection with another human being.  I don’t want to take your time or your money.  LOOK AT ME.  I need someone to see that I am a person.  I need confirmation that I am a part of this community.  I need to know that I count.  Sometimes I am hurting.  Sometimes I am joyful.  Sometimes I feel alone.  Sometimes I feel afraid.  Sometimes I am happy.  Sometimes I am sad.  LOOK AT ME.  I want you to see me and how I am doing today.  I don’t know how to ask for connection, to build a friendship, or talk about what is going on inside of me.  LOOK AT ME.  I worry that my existence is inconsequential.  I wonder if there is more to life that cursory glances and pretending not to see. LOOK AT ME.  I want to show you that I am a real person needing to connect with those around me.  I need to know that I am a part of something more than just me.  LOOK AT ME.  I have been told that I am created in the image of God.  Why would you ignore God?  LOOK AT ME.  See me for who I am, instead of how the world chooses to define me.  Know that I am more than the sum of my parts.  I am fearfully and wonderful made, just like you.  LOOK AT ME.  Show me that we are part of God’s kingdom.  Show me that we are brothers and sisters in Christ.  LOOK AT ME.  Take the time to really look at me.  Show me Christ living in you.